Aye din know howta read the lass, a kooky species she is. I feel an attraction coming, but don't know if my gut has a reaction for me to listen to yet.
So a couple of weeks ago, I met this guy and girl in the place where most of my friends hang out. They're both in the same math class, so they hang out together - or rather did. This past Monday she was down in the dumps because she was lead on by this friend - who had fallen for somebody else, and began dating. So that day, we're talking about things unrelated to that, the fact that she is, and I am AS WELL, ADHD/Aspergers only fueled more conversation until it drifted back to her upset, which lead me to bring in my own experiences and talked about that a little before going home.
We wanted to hang out again - so, I picked the one day I didn't have classes to come in since I also wanted to be away from my computer and thus able to get some class work done. We strike up conversation again - then she goes to class. By now it is established that we both have the same disorders, and habitually, and intellectually have the same quirks and pet peeves. Funny, eh? So after her class, we hang out again and keep talking. She had to go to a club meeting on campus, and wanted to cut it short so she could trundle across campus to get to where she needed to go.
Fuck that, she decided not to go - and to stay and hang out with me [and said, "I'd rather hang out with you"]. Before long, the table we were sitting at was overrun with people who wanted to play some Magic the Gathering, so we trundled across campus a little - continued conversation finding out that we share a lot of the same likes in music, movies, etc - and the same dislikes about the modern mainstream music. At this point we both realize, "Holy shit, this is like talking to an exact clone of me! This is awesome!" :trollface: :trollface:
Sitting outside, we were both chilling our asses off, so we decide to go inside - to the building where her next class is. We are hanging out, and talking some more - at this point, she is expressing some mild outward affection - as was I was in response... nothing much, things like she would rest her head on my shoulder, place her hand on mine, things like that. The way she was looking at me, and how close physically to me she was I kinda noticed, but not that much because I was wrapped up in conversation, AND nervous as hell about all sorts of things. As the hour drew closer and closer to her class' start, and that time passed further and further away, she stayed, we talked - I joked, she joked, we both laughed in response. Eventually I DID have to go home though, at which we said our good-byes and she expressed interest in hanging out again. I asked when she was free, and found out - I have class from 8AM to 3PM tomorrow [and every Thursday], so I said "If I don't see you tomorrow, definitely Friday?" Which she gladly accepted noting she gout out of class at noon. NBD, my only class is from 10AM-11AM on Friday.
Part of me wonders if this is residual from her recouping from her feelings about the other person, a bit of attraction, or what I think it could be, a little of both? What should I do from here, should I NOT do, how should I approach this?Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Did I mention At the point I left, she left for class, or rather, what was left of it. It was, at that time, 4:05 PM. Her class started at 1 PM, and went until 5PM. To her confession, she had never chosen to skip [most of a] class to hang out with ANYBODY before.
If she just broke up with someone be careful could just be rebound...
This is actually kinda ... overwhelming- so many new experiences, feelings.... *brain explode*
Today was 1 hour of class, 1 hour of waiting for her to get out of class, 5 hours of togetherness, and I enjoyed every second of it - I totally feel like she is into me, but why do I still feel unsure about whether or not I'm taking the right steps, saying the right things, doing the right thigns, etc? ... ~_~ BLEGHH!
I mean, we spend an absurd amount of time as it is cuddling, talking, laughing, joking ,and flat out having a good time, and having the exact same set of basic behavioral quirks I do, her understanding of how that hinders communication about things like this has made it quite easy to talk to her... that, and her and I being on the same wavelength [finishing each other's sentences, reading each other's thoughts, the tones in our voices, et cetera] should make it easy, yet those nerves are still very tight. >_<
/DunnoHowToRespondToHerSayingThatShe'sOnHerPeriodAndThatTestsOurRelationshipWithoutSoundingLikeAnAsshole
Today, after many days of saying we wanted to, we made out. ;D :trollface:well I guess ill miss seeing you in TTT
Time stood still, and our surroundings ceased to exist momentarily, it is like no other feeling in the world.
well I guess ill miss seeing you in TTT
Is everything going good with you and her?
Yes. We've really - er - fallen for each other, it's incredible. :D
If what you're saying is correct, then you should approach the guy and figure out what the hell is going on, if he's gonna try pulling a retard face on you, beat him up. That's my suggestion.
Yes you could do what prox said and beat him up, but honestly, do you really want a relationship where you have to be a jealous ass and beat the snot out of anyone who your girlfriend bats an eye at? I'd steer way clear of any woman who would find this attractive/ acceptable.I suggested that because Travelsonic said that her girlfriend was being manipulated into breaking up/cutting all contacts with him which isn't the same thing as for her to choose this on her own.
I suggested that because Travelsonic said that her girlfriend was being manipulated into breaking up/cutting all contacts with him which isn't the same thing as for her to choose this on her own.
Heheheh, at one point I was thinking of dropping a bombshell on his Facebook page where people are raving about his status becoming 'in a relationship' - about how he catches his girls by manipulating them and brainwashing them into cheating on their boyfriends.
Xrain: It isn't so much the relationship anymore than the little fuckhead owning up to what he did, and being forced to face consequences [which could be as simple as being exiled from the large group of friends I hang out with every day]
And I was saying, it doesn't work like that. She has to be a bit willing to go along with doing something like that, unless there is some serious abuse happening. So getting mad at him for "manipulating" her into cutting him off isn't cool because that is a crap reason.I think it's everyone's personal choice how to act in this situation, besides I clearly don't know how exactly the situation is and I haven't said that Travelsonic should just go and beat him up, I said that only if the other guy would act like an idiot towards him or something like it when confronted about the issue.
OK, you know what?
I've held my tongue, feels like forever though it has only been a day, but I have to say something.
This whole thing wouldn't be any problem if it didn't stink to high hell of manipulation, and if outright cheating had not been involved [and if she had broken up with me then found you or anything like that].
You know damn well it didn't have to happen the way it did, where you had her cheat on me [no additional terms like 'essentially' or 'sorta' - that's EXACTLY what fucking happened]. You know damned well that was the wrong thing to do - that she needed TRUE advice in handling the conflicts in feelings she was facing [as opposed to what apparently transpired], that you were going behind my back and making her go behind my back, AND breaking a promise made a good while back not to interfere with our relationship. I bet that cutting off all communication and not even talking to me about what happened, accepting my calls on Skype the night before, or any of this shit leading up to the events of the other day - was her idea? I may be slow at times, but I'm not fucking stupid. I know damn well when the bullshit is being laid on thick... and no matter the thickness of the bullshit, the hurt can not be masked with false veils.
Though I hope I am wrong, the evidence is overwhelmingly supporting my gut feeling, and it sickens me. Who'd think it'd end up like this.
I suggested that because Travelsonic said that her girlfriend was being manipulated into breaking up/cutting all contacts with him which isn't the same thing as for her to choose this on her own.