It hurts more to be with the wrong person, but finding the right one is worth it.
It hurts more to be with the wrong person, but finding the right one is worth it.But it takes a couple of weeks or months to figure out if you're with the right person
But it takes a couple of weeks or months to figure out if you're with the right person
It hurts more to be with the wrong person, but finding the right one is worth it.
Sorry dude I'm on her side I've been screwed too many times by females. Hence way I've been single for so many years now. I do agree that being alone is depressing and hurts but when you get hurt by someone you truly loved there is no comparison to that hurt, time does not heal all wounds!
"why does she keep going back into relationships??"
Thats human nature we find comfort in familiarity.
Honestly, I've never been in a relationship myself either, so it is a bit hard to say, but my views on love/relationships are this:
Being alone might seem like a better option only because, you would only have yourself to please and no one else, and you would never have to worry about the heartbreak; as much as I would like to be with someone, I think that for a relationship to really work, you can't just like a person, you need to be friends with that person, best friends. Too many people now days get into relationships with people they've only known for a couple days or weeks, thinking they know the person; and then in short period of time (sometimes this isn't the case but generally) they realize that they really aren't meant for each other, and that they didn't know them as much as they really thought they did. Also, there is that sexual drive that causes people to get together, only to realize that there is more to a relationship then just sex. Now to choose whether to be single or to be together really depends on the people. When you find that person who you can talk about anything with, and that your time isn't spent smooching on each other, but actually being together and doing things, that in my opinion is a true relationship, and with that in your grasp you really shouldn't have that many conflicts. You'll know how to talk to each other so that you can avoid problems. In honesty, love is worth it in the sense that you have someone to be happy and share happiness with. Isn't that all a person could ask for?
My friends tend to go back to the person they break up with as well, and always say that same thing "I'm done with guys blah blah blah" But they're the type of people I think, that look at dating someone as an accessory. "Being single isn't as cool as being in a relationship apparently" So when they break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend, all they complain about is how they can't stand being single. What? Can't stand being single? What about "I can't stand how sad it is to lose that wonderful friendship we had, it's really upsetting." Nope, that's just how a lot of people are now days, they can't stand not being able to say "I'm in a relationship with someone" on their facebook, it's quite unfortunate.
(sorry about the tl;dr)
Well then you're going to get badly hurt anyways, unless by pure chance you happen to meet "the one" first. But that is true none the less.
Is it worth to have never loved at all though? Seeing as I've never been with anyone, I've never felt that kind of connection with someone. I know I'll get hurt eventually, but I can't imagine the hurt being as bad as the hurt from being alone. You'll hurt for awhile, no doubt, but when you're alone, it's always hurting.
I can totally understand. It's annoying to see those people who date for like 2 weeks, then never speak to each other again.
I really admire those people who stick with each other forever. especially in High School. It fills me up with hope that one day I'll be that lucky as to find someone special. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like it's better to be alone. I just don't want that though.
I'm just weird I guess : /
I think you have that feeling, because you see the failure in others relationships, which turns you off from the topic entirely. Just like when you see a couple together happy, you feel a complete opposite feeling; at least, that's just me.
There was a shit ton of pain, hurt and saddness during the course of my 6 year relationship.
It wasnt always a pretty picture. We weren't always happy the way we were with eachother.
It was really difficult and sometimes we both thought about giving up and moving on to different people.
6 years we've been together - about 4 years of it consisted of pain and endurance to stay with eachother.
It took two to fix it. Our relationship is 10000x better now because both of us decided to finally fix it as one.
it's always hard for me to talk about this because what we went through was complete hell. But what I learned was
when things are starting to get rough, don't just give up and find the next person. If you honestly really do love that person
you'll be willing to do anything to fix it.. and vice versa.
I mean, at the end of the day, it feels good to have someone to be there for you. Play games with you, and share common interests with.
I know I'll never find a person like him and he'll never find a person like me.
We did have a rough life but we stuck it through.
So yes, it's worth loving another human being, there will be no other better love story than the one you create on your own.
Kurt Vile "Baby's Arms" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63KB-EJKdyI#ws)
I might be crazy but I believe the ups and downs of love make it worthwhile.
To me it's better than a stagnant experience going without it.
I think love is worth it, but you don't have to be all the time with someone. You get a girl for a couple months, if it goes well then years, then break-up nicely and take a break. Hang out with friends/girls but no serious relationships for a couple of months and then you'll want it again.
When you break up and feel sad that's just part of life. It makes you mentally stronger.
You don't have to necessarily "break up". You could always just take a couple days off from each other when you two begin to get on each others nerves.
Yes
Is it worth to have never loved at all though? Seeing as I've never been with anyone, I've never felt that kind of connection with someone. I know I'll get hurt eventually, but I can't imagine the hurt being as bad as the hurt from being alone. You'll hurt for awhile, no doubt, but when you're alone, it's always hurting.
It hurts more to be with the wrong person, but finding the right one is worth it.Tl;dr's beyond this post lol. But basically I agree with this.
My best friend (who is a girl) are having a heated discussion right now. It's really annoying me because she doesn't seem to understand my view. of course, I probably don't understand her view either. So I came to you guys to see what your view is, and whether or not you agree with me or her.Spoiler (click to show/hide)
The main conflict: It's better to be alone then be in a relationship with someone.
She's been having a hard time getting over someone lately, and so she was telling me how today she almost made the mistake of going back to this dude. A few texts later and I start to lose it. She's telling me it's better to be alone then be with someone you like (or love, whichever). This was a hard hit to the heart because I myself have never even been in a real relationship. What started setting me off is that she's been in relationships, and she keeps going back to them. She's never had to deal with being alone like I have, and yet here she is telling me that dating hurts more than being alone. If it hurt so much, why does she keep going back into relationships??
I get that either way, it hurts. But which one is more worth it? The long, continuous pain of having no one there to experience what it's like being human. Or does it hurt more when you two get in a fight and break up? Though I've never felt what it's like to be hurt in terms of a broken relationship, I think it's still worth it, don't you?
She countered this by saying that all guys are the same. All they want is sex, and is always thinking about sexual things. she said that because of that, people are always going to get hurt. Yeah, I get it, men are sexual beasts. It's who we are, it's in out blood. That's how we were built. The difference is those guys who actually TRY to control it, rather than those who will do anything in their power to experience it.
There is a little bit more, but this is all you really need to understand whats going on.
Is it worth it?
The main conflict: It's better to be alone then be in a relationship with someone.
It hurts more to be with the wrong person, but finding the right one is worth it.
...go around in relationships that last a week or two that are pointless. Most just do it for the social aspect to fit in or w.e, and then get upset somehow when they break up. It's stupid and not worth it. Relationships are worth it, but you have to not be stupid about it.
I LOVE YOU FOREVER NEVER LEAVE ME EVERYTHING IS GOLDEN AND
This is pretty cool, I guess.
Love is nonexistent, it's glorified lust with genuine attraction sprinkled in.
I'd get in depth but I've been awake for three days.
Nobody else?...I can't think of a witty comeback to that.
okay...
I can't think of a witty comeback to that.
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I let out a wicked evil/dark laugh when I read some parts. No idea why. Scared myself.
But, ignoring that;
There's no true yes or no answer. I mean there's this answer and I love it:
But there are many answers you can follow if you so choose. Or, not follow. Hell, you can do both/be both, in some circumstances.
People are people, however saying that is ironic as not many of the same person is the same or thinks the same, especially not at the same time or place, too.
Rare instance you find that someone who you only need to say five word to in order to cause a sudden blackout.
It also depends what you mean by being alone, and then being in a relationship.
The relationship could be
or it could be
Or, you know, it could be
In any case, depends on the person you are, and the person you will yourself to be afterwards.
Me? I'm the most INTROVERT, Stoic, Loner-like, Questionable, Outcasted-Outcast ever.
I have... 5 levels of myself that people can know IRL. That's just how Stoic I am. And I like it like that. Everything's Nice and Quiet, I can hear myself think about nice things even if things aren't so nice, and I can sit back and enjoy my youth (And Freedoms, including Freedom of Speech) while I still have them/it.
I mean I love the fuck out of drawing.
Instead of worrying if she's pregnant/cheating/something silly/Rumors/Drama AND passing the exams, I can go outside and watch the Sun rise. Or, Sleep in and dream about the Sun exploding.
I don't need to worry about who said what and who did what, and what she/he thinks and what she/he says or any of that fucking wool-over-head bullshit I'm too busy to deal with ._.
It's probably because of the people around me participating in what Sabb just explained and then some. If I try to follow suit like everyone else, it's like holding a meat-bag full of nothingness.
That's why I'm so Locked in Place. Yet I make people smile. And I'm always trying to figure people out, anyways. That is, if there's something I think there's worth unleashing.
Being my current self, I'd say it's better to be alone because it's a Needle in the Pacific Ocean covered in metal shards out there. But that's because of the Environment. Physical-wise (Location, Climate), Social-wise (Media, Societal Norms and Influences and Stereotypes), and Mental-wise (This one should be easy. Xenophobia :u).
If anything, you could still be the most rustic, in-need-of-repair, scratched, dented fucking hammer without a head to hammer with. The only issue is, most people only want to hear themselves talk (Indecisively at that)- and then complain that I'm not saying anything back. Well fuck, I'm sorry for being an attentive listener and not interrupting or misinterpreting anything and taking things slow like you wanted me to... sounds like you just want me to make you feel good and nothing else ._.
I'm nobody's instant gratification, not even my own.
And then some people just want to go so fast. Shit, I don't even know you, and you want me to do WHAT?
It'd just be better if, for a second, you ever listened to me when I say something (Because from what I'm getting, this is what you wanted)- and even better, actually learned things about life that I've actually had the time to sit down and think about/experience unlike some people I know, so you don't have to run around like a chicken with it's head cut off/constantly pester me and play My Little Bipolar Nutcase. And I know that I don't know much. But good god, I've been places, and know things that I see some people requiring constant baby steps with. Like not knowing how to go about things (FEEEELIIINNNGGSSSS ARE WEIRD/GAY/ICKY).
Most of everyone's so, surface-and-nothing-else :I
I don't even (usually) say no to whoever approaches me. I can't be a hypocrite. I'll try it out.
I want to see what makes you tick. Hell, I want to make sure you're ticking.
I want to make sure you're running at peak efficiency.
That's the only way I know for sure that we'll keep working in tandem instead of falling apart.
Especially because I know most people don't have the heart :u
Corny tl;dr