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Title: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 06, 2011, 09:41:02 PM
I think this fits enough into the pg-13 guidelines if people don't go into "exploits" or advice. When is it okay to have sex? Does your age matter, or your feelings for the other person, how about how long you've been with that person?

Would you think it is fine for 13 year old kids to go at it, or 10, or 30? Is there a specific age when your brain is supposedly developed well enough to be able to handle the emotions involved with sex, or does that depend more on your personal experiences that an arbitrary thing like age can't rightly determine?

Should you only have sex for love, or with the intent of developing a long term relationship? Or are one night stands fine enough, or simple flings just to have fun without settling down? If you are going for a long term relationship then how much time must pass, or money spent, is enough for the girls to put out?

I've heard of the 2-3 month hurdle that wears out all of those puppy love emotions and relationships can start to strain afterwards if there isn't anything solid keeping the two together. Would you say waiting until after that hurdle is a good idea if you're attempting to find someone for the long term? Or would you prefer a 3,5,7 date kind of girl (are you one)? If a guy (and yes this would usually be the guy and not the girl with the problem, but there are exceptions) couldn't wait through 3 months of dating for sex then does that mean he is focusing more on the sex and less on the woman it is with, it might as well be with any other hot piece? Or rather, more on the destination and not the road traveled, not caring to build a foundation for a relationship just wanting to cross that finish line?

Sex complicates things, or at least it changes them in the relationship. Are you sure you're ready for those changes once sex is involved?

Also, why do men and women judge each other on their conquests? Men are either pigs or they've got game. Women are either whores or sluts for sleeping around. It is a pro for men and a con for women who share the same behavior. Well after all as the saying goes. What good is a lock that opens for many key?
credit for this idea goes to my friend TotalWeakman (you dont know him)
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Shawn on December 06, 2011, 10:15:23 PM
FUCK TYPE SOMETHING OUT AND HIT "BACKSPACE" AND EVERYTHING GOT DELETED FUCK!!!!! ANYWAYS ONCE AGIAN

You should only have sex when you are sure you're ready other wise you'll regret it for the rest of your life, Don't do it because other say you should or because people tease you ONLY do it when you and that special person are ready. Your first time determines how you view sex for the rest of your life.

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and yes this would usually be the guy and not the girl with the problem,

Hmm no stop being sexist. Women love sex just as much as guys in fact ALL of my ex's wanted sex more then i did.

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It is a pro for men and a con for women who share the same behavior.

First, You've seen to many movies because in the real world most people don't act like that besides high schools who haven't grown up yet. Secondly once again STOP being sexist some women take pride in who they sleep with/how many just as much as men do, gender doesn't matter, I actually have an ex who went to the "extreme" with the "conquests" thing She had a ranking system for every guy shes slept with, with sub-category's for ranking... IE: Size, endurance Ect (And its was a fairly long list Lol)

I don't know where you got your info from but you couldn't be further from the truth.

Anyways to sum up
Only have sex when you're sure!
Stop being sexist.

and thats it.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Jman on December 06, 2011, 10:22:00 PM
Derp.

/thread
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 06, 2011, 10:57:10 PM
Don't have sex with someone if you can't see yourself with them for a long time.
Cause you might have a kid with that person.
Cause you didn't check the condom for the holes your bitch-of-an-ex poked into them.



In all seriousness, its not a set thing: It's when you and your partner think you're ready.

/LOLIMSTILLVIRGIN
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Supertoaster on December 06, 2011, 11:00:19 PM
Im not trying to joke. But how would this apply to gays?
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 06, 2011, 11:24:15 PM
Im not trying to joke. But how would this apply to gays?

The same way.
You and your partner decide you're ready.

Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Devie on December 07, 2011, 08:30:40 AM
I feared that it may complicate things. We spoke about it. I was scared of the change it'll cause especially since we were a lot younger.

I didn't know whether we were gonna be together forever or not, but what I did know is that I love this person. Did I know what love was at that time? No I did not, but I can definitely differentiate the feelings I had because they were not normal feelings I would feel for any regular person. To me, that was enough to call "love". But of course, the other person has to feel the same way.

So in the end, it doesn't matter what age you are as long as you do feel some kind of emotional connection with your partner, and vice versa.
It's better that way than to lose your virginity to someone named "Keke" at a party last night.

Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 07, 2011, 09:03:14 AM
The same way.
You and your partner decide you're ready.


What if I get him preggo? :X
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Don on December 07, 2011, 09:11:09 AM
What if I get him preggo? :X
>get him preggo
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 07, 2011, 09:13:53 AM
>get him preggo
It works the same way :trollface:


Anyway, I think a being should fuck when it feels ready, knows the causes and consequences, why/why nots, etc. It should never be forced. Forced things never end up well.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Shawn on December 07, 2011, 10:36:13 AM
What if I get him preggo? :X

Morning after pill.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 07, 2011, 11:36:42 AM
lose your virginity to someone named "Keke" at a party last night.


What if "keke" was REALLY SPUER HAWT?!?!1q
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Devie on December 07, 2011, 12:01:37 PM

What if "keke" was REALLY SPUER HAWT?!?!1q

Riding the bull:
As a girl play it kinky and tie his arms on the bed then get on top of him, ride him like you usually do the cowgirl sex position.
Now proceed on telling him you have an STD.

Stay on his dick as long as you can.

That's how KeKe gives diseases out because shes a disease carrying whore.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: cogsandspigots on December 07, 2011, 12:07:31 PM
>get him preggo
(http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lo7w35bJ9y1qk38c7o1_400.jpg)
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 07, 2011, 12:43:01 PM
Riding the bull:
As a girl play it kinky and tie his arms on the bed then get on top of him, ride him like you usually do the cowgirl sex position.
Now proceed on telling him you have an STD.

Stay on his dick as long as you can.

That's how KeKe gives diseases out because shes a disease carrying whore.


.____________.
-insert awkward twitching here-
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 07, 2011, 01:03:37 PM
well time to input my opinion (get those -1 out boys and girls XD)

i think it should be done responsibly, because teen and young adults are going to have a ball in their glory years which is also the time of their sexual peek. so telling them to only have sex when they are ready, or with the person they love is like telling a burning building to stop burning. so they are going to do it anyways with all the risks included, which is why i think it should be done responsibly, by using condoms, not only so the male doesnt catch a SDT, but also so the female doesn't catch it from the male.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 07, 2011, 01:05:38 PM
well time to input my opinion (get those -1 out boys and girls XD)

i think it should be done responsibly, because teen and young adults are going to have a ball in their glory years which is also the time of their sexual peek. so telling them to only have sex when they are ready, or with the person they love is like telling a burning building to stop burning. so they are going to do it anyways with all the risks included, which is why i think it should be done responsibly, by using condoms, not only so the male doesnt catch a SDT, but also so the female doesn't catch it from the male.


MY FACE IS SO INERT RIGHT NOW
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 07, 2011, 01:08:06 PM

MY FACE IS SO INERT RIGHT NOW

??????????
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Alphaggot on December 07, 2011, 01:10:44 PM
??????????

You derailed your own topic then thus proceeded to talk about STDs when the thread is about when the right time is.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 07, 2011, 01:13:37 PM
You derailed your own topic then thus proceeded to talk about STDs when the thread is about when the right time is.

STD's wasnt the focus of my post it was just the closing statement. im just saying that if you chose to have sex make sure you are prepared. because you can only dodge the baby bullet so many time. which sadly alot of young adults and teen, just go out unprepared and knock up someone or get knocked up.

but it never says when is the right time, it says when is it okay to have sex?
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: ·UηİŦ·· on December 07, 2011, 03:00:34 PM
Well, Loopholes aside or whatever.

Spoiler (click to show/hide)

... I'll stop now.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Ἆxule on December 07, 2011, 06:55:36 PM
I believe on what mostly has been said.
I honestly don't believe I would stay a virgin when I got into a serious relationship before I get married. I just don't see that happening, but it is possible. I can control myself well enough. That's besides the point.
What I'm trying to get at is that sex in my eyes is a way of revealing your whole self to another. It's like saying, "This is who I am, and I trust you enough so that I can reveal myself to you."
You wouldn't want to reveal every, single detail about yourself to some random stranger you've known for a week would you?

If you and your partner have discussed about things such as possible STD's, what if you two had a child (Abortion, stay at home mom/dad, etc.), as well as whether you two were serious about it and loved each other, then it's alright.

How does being married make any difference to your experience? The only way I see it is if you let it bother you, but it shouldn't if you two are for real.

For me, I'm not so worried as to having sex before marriage. As long as my first (and hopefully last, but w/e) time is with someone I truly love and care for, then I know I won't regret anything. If I end up getting her pregnant, I want her to have the child. I'm not a strong believer in killing a fetus. (I don't care about your opinions). I'm fully willing to accept my actions and work my fingers to the bone to support a family, even if I'm only 16 (as of right now).

As a woman, I believe you have more to think about before having sex because some men are just there for the action, then gone forever. If you end up with a child, the woman is screwed and either has to choose something she doesn't want to do and what not.

The guy however can just make a hit and run and not have to worry about the kid.

Overall, make sure you can trust each other, make sure you have gone over every little factor that goes with sex, and most of all, be sure both of you are relaxed about the idea. If you're stressed about the idea, obviously you're not ready and/or you have doubts about each other.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 07, 2011, 08:25:59 PM
I believe on what mostly has been said.
I honestly don't believe I would stay a virgin when I got into a serious relationship before I get married. I just don't see that happening, but it is possible. I can control myself well enough. That's besides the point.
What I'm trying to get at is that sex in my eyes is a way of revealing your whole self to another. It's like saying, "This is who I am, and I trust you enough so that I can reveal myself to you."
You wouldn't want to reveal every, single detail about yourself to some random stranger you've known for a week would you?

If you and your partner have discussed about things such as possible STD's, what if you two had a child (Abortion, stay at home mom/dad, etc.), as well as whether you two were serious about it and loved each other, then it's alright.

How does being married make any difference to your experience? The only way I see it is if you let it bother you, but it shouldn't if you two are for real.

For me, I'm not so worried as to having sex before marriage. As long as my first (and hopefully last, but w/e) time is with someone I truly love and care for, then I know I won't regret anything. If I end up getting her pregnant, I want her to have the child. I'm not a strong believer in killing a fetus. (I don't care about your opinions). I'm fully willing to accept my actions and work my fingers to the bone to support a family, even if I'm only 16 (as of right now).

As a woman, I believe you have more to think about before having sex because some men are just there for the action, then gone forever. If you end up with a child, the woman is screwed and either has to choose something she doesn't want to do and what not.

The guy however can just make a hit and run and not have to worry about the kid.

Overall, make sure you can trust each other, make sure you have gone over every little factor that goes with sex, and most of all, be sure both of you are relaxed about the idea. If you're stressed about the idea, obviously you're not ready and/or you have doubts about each other.

Yeah, but a chick can't do the same? You know, fuck you, get preggo, get welfare, have her family raise the kid, she dumps you and doesn't give a fuck.

Men aren't the only pigs.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Ἆxule on December 07, 2011, 08:27:48 PM
Yeah, but a chick can't do the same? You know, fuck you, get preggo, get welfare, have her family raise the kid, she dumps you and doesn't give a fuck.

Men aren't the only pigs.

What if her parents aren't going to take the child?
and even if they do, the mother will always have that child. Or, at least he/she always will be in the family.

A guy can just fuck and forget it ever happened.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 07, 2011, 09:27:02 PM
What if her parents aren't going to take the child?
and even if they do, the mother will always have that child. Or, at least he/she always will be in the family.

A guy can just fuck and forget it ever happened.

not always, the female can have the male pay child support. but i think a DNA test has to be made.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 07, 2011, 09:53:37 PM
What if her parents aren't going to take the child?
and even if they do, the mother will always have that child. Or, at least he/she always will be in the family.

A guy can just fuck and forget it ever happened.
So can the bitch.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 07, 2011, 09:56:39 PM
So can the bitch.

very true, unless she gets pregnant, then she it FFFFFFFUCKED. unless she gets an abortion, which even that can damage the women(not all the time but its still a risk).
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 07, 2011, 09:58:38 PM
very true, unless she gets pregnant, then she it FFFFFFFUCKED. unless she gets an abortion, which even that can damage the women(not all the time but its still a risk).
She can have the kid and have the father keep it all for himself.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 04:51:36 AM
She can have the kid and have the father keep it all for himself.

that is true as well, tis a shame this generation  seems to be laking in moral fiber. (not all just a large precent :/)........god i miss the cold war.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 05:35:27 AM
that is true as well, tis a shame this generation  seems to be laking in moral fiber. (not all just a large precent :/)........god i miss the cold war.
Moral is DERP. Cold War is DERPER.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 05:53:24 AM
Moral is DERP. Cold War is DERPER.

having a good set of morals isnt bad , its when you try to force your morals down someones throat when it becomes bad.

but i believ morals also have a role to play in when it is okay to have sex. some cultures see sex as a sacred thing and is a symbol of a man and women sharing themselfs with each other and is seen as an abomination when people defile it.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 06:16:43 AM
having a good set of morals isnt bad , its when you try to force your morals down someones throat when it becomes bad.

but i believ morals also have a role to play in when it is okay to have sex. some cultures see sex as a sacred thing and is a symbol of a man and women sharing themselfs with each other and is seen as an abomination when people defile it.
Those cultures must be pretty stupid if they think man+woman is the only combination.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 06:40:07 AM
Those cultures must be pretty stupid if they think man+woman is the only combination.

your right, man + horse makes a great couple. i guess this is where centaurs come into being, and other half human mythical beasts.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 06:58:23 AM
your right, man + horse makes a great couple. i guess this is where centaurs come into being, and other half human mythical beasts.

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Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Foofoojack on December 08, 2011, 07:01:40 AM
your right, man + horse makes a great couple. i guess this is where centaurs come into being, and other half human mythical beasts.
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Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 07:03:46 AM
(http://myfacewhen.com/images/404.jpg)

lol im sure you know im joking. right ?

but homosexuals are still seen as taboo, because for pretty much all of time, except for the past 40 years homosexuality was seen as strange and against nature. (but for the sake of not turning this into a discussion about homosexuals etc.) lets just leave them out of this because i feel its a powder keg wait for a match.

anyways back to what i was saying, sex in many cultures is a largely sacred thing, and imo should be treated as so.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 07:53:27 AM
lol im sure you know im joking. right ?

but homosexuals are still seen as taboo, because for pretty much all of time, except for the past 40 years homosexuality was seen as strange and against nature. (but for the sake of not turning this into a discussion about homosexuals etc.) lets just leave them out of this because i feel its a powder keg wait for a match.

anyways back to what i was saying, sex in many cultures is a largely sacred thing, and imo should be treated as so.
So because faggotry is taboo in some cultures we're not supposed to talk about it? What kind of shit is that?
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 09:09:42 AM
So because faggotry is taboo in some cultures we're not supposed to talk about it? What kind of shit is that?

its not about that, its just that its a very touchy subject which is why i dont want any part of it. which is why i reverted back to earlier post, tbh what goes on in a man or woman's bedroom is their business not mine. end of story.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 09:18:13 AM
its not about that, its just that its a very touchy subject which is why i dont want any part of it. which is why i reverted back to earlier post, tbh what goes on in a man or woman's bedroom is their business not mine. end of story.
Yet you discuss about the right time? You've got more contradictions than the Catholic church.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 09:25:26 AM
Yet you discuss about the right time? You've got more contradictions than the Catholic church.

never says right time, says "when is it okay to have sex?"  if we where going off right time, then go out and get together with a girl when she is in heat, or as they call it "time of the month  according to biology thats the perfect time :P. the topic is more based on your moral justification for when to have sex.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 09:35:52 AM
never says right time, says "when is it okay to have sex?"  if we where going off right time, then go out and get together with a girl when she is in heat, or as they call it "time of the month  according to biology thats the perfect time :P. the topic is more based on your moral justification for when to have sex.
>when

>time
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Nemisous on December 08, 2011, 09:40:38 AM
>when

>time

sorry my derp XD when you said right time, i got a bit confused. and thought you where talking about the timing. but i apologize for the misunderstanding.  but i think sex should be something you do with someone you love, rather than some person out of nowhere that you just met 5 minutes ago, that's where i draw the line.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Frank on December 08, 2011, 09:43:01 AM
sorry my derp XD when you said right time, i got a bit confused. and thought you where talking about the timing. but i apologize for the misunderstanding.  but i think sex should be something you do with someone you love, rather than some person out of nowhere that you just meat 5 minutes ago, that's where i draw the line.
You should secks however/whenever you feel like, being in knowledge of the consequences.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: coolzeldad on December 08, 2011, 03:44:12 PM
Yeah, personally I agree with Frank. I believe this topic is better handled through a case by case basis, only because it's hard to set rules about this for other people when so many differences exist.

And an educated, well thought out decision is usually better than not.
Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
Post by: Deacon on December 08, 2011, 05:58:27 PM
Yeah, personally I agree with Frank. I believe this topic is better handled through a case by case basis, only because it's hard to set rules about this for other people when so many differences exist.

And an educated, well thought out decision is usually better than not.


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Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
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Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
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Title: Re: When is it okay to have sex?
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