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How do I convince my stubborn mom?
Rocket50:
--- Quote from: Sabb on June 22, 2011, 03:36:03 PM ---I read half way, got the point and TL;DR'd.
It's stupid to -1 based off a difference of opinion, as I already said, it's juvenile.
As for you trying to prove that you had a rougher childhood, you clearly missed the point.
I wasn't posting that to try and get sympathy for you to pity me... I just wanted you to understand that your thinking doesn't work so well, at least not for me.
And you saying that you had it so rough because you were beaten...
THEN WHY DO YOU SUPPORT IT?
You clearly despise it so much, because it made it really rough for you, or by what you said sounds like it, SO WHY DO YOU WANT THAT FOR OTHER PEOPLE? It doesn't make any sense...
I also don't care if the people in your community beat all their children for the shits and giggles or not, for me, that would just encourage me to be even less violent.
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Im pretty sure he's supporting it so he, in his mind, believes that his current childhood of being physically disciplined is the best, and there was no other possibly better way his parents could've treated him.
Xrain:
Parenting... ah yes, there is no "correct" way to do it. It's too complex of a topic to define it in such simple terms.
But previous posts are right, teaching your kids with fear is extremely counter productive and Not effective.
Don't get me wrong there are times an places for spanking and such, (mostly before kids can talk) However, if your kids overwhelming feeling is they fear you (This dosn't mean they are scared when they do somthing wrong) This means that the first feeling they feel when they think of their parents is fear.
You screwed up parenting bad.
For me, I was never scared of being spanked or getting a time out. It was more the feeling, that I disappointed my parents. And this is how it should be, a kid should love and respect their parents, and be sad when they disappoint them.
There is no real surefire way to get this right, as everyone's situation and personality is different, and nothing is guaranteed to work for even most situations. That's why parenting is so hard. All of those "parenting" books might have some good tips, but following them as gospel is a recipe for disaster.
In the OP's situation.
Your sister just wants attention, so she does all the things that she knows will get her some (insulting, hitting, etc.)
This is a tough one since I really don't know anything about her.
My best bet would be to ignore her.
Completely
But for only when she is doing something bad.
- Even if she hits you
- Even if she breaks things
- Even if she cusses up a storm.
But, as soon as she does something nice, be her best friend.
When she does something Bad again, Ignore her completely.
Eventually her need for attention might outgrow her angriness, and she will be nice to you.
Again this isn't guaranteed to work, but if anything it sure will annoy the hell out of her at least. Just go hide anything precious to you.
Hitting her back wont do jack, It will only aggravate the situation.
Seb:
GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS, PEOPLE
the good news is that my mom decided to let me talk and finally admitted that this lardball is a big ball of hate and nids gtfo
BAD NEWS
she decided to hire somebody to help her with her problems, whihc won't work unless the guy's a fucking wizard or something
Deacon:
--- Quote from: Seb on June 24, 2011, 01:13:02 PM ---GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS, PEOPLE
the good news is that my mom decided to let me talk and finally admitted that this lardball is a big ball of hate and nids gtfo
BAD NEWS
she decided to hire somebody to help her with her problems, whihc won't work unless the guy's a fucking wizard or something
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you never know
sometimes outside influences work better.
Like with tutoring
Cheesicle:
--- Quote from: Old Major on June 24, 2011, 01:13:02 PM ---GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS, PEOPLE
the good news is that my mom decided to let me talk and finally admitted that this lardball is a big ball of hate and nids gtfo
BAD NEWS
she decided to hire somebody to help her with her problems, whihc won't work unless the guy's a fucking wizard or something
--- End quote ---
So close.... Yet still so far
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