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Title: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 06:17:42 PM
So, there's this guy I really like but when I asked him out he said he wanted to take it slow
What do
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Foofoojack on June 06, 2012, 06:19:53 PM
What does he mean by "take it slow"?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Deacon on June 06, 2012, 06:20:10 PM
What does he mean by "take it slow"?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ursus on June 06, 2012, 06:20:34 PM
it means he wants to fuck slow
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Sabb on June 06, 2012, 06:21:11 PM
it means he wants to fuck slow
I was tempted to say the same thing. I lol'd.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Supertoaster on June 06, 2012, 06:21:44 PM
take it slow just means start off slow. he doesnt want to jump right into a relationship
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 06:21:58 PM
What does he mean by "take it slow"?
Like, I asked him out and he said
[9:13:28 PM] Alex Smith: I'd be glad, but
[9:13:30 PM] Alex Smith: Let's take it a bit slower
[9:13:38 PM] Alex Smith: ((That's not a no))
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Foofoojack on June 06, 2012, 06:22:47 PM
Like, I asked him out and he said
[9:13:28 PM] Alex Smith: I'd be glad, but
[9:13:30 PM] Alex Smith: Let's take it a bit slower
[9:13:38 PM] Alex Smith: ((That's not a no))

Wait, you asked him out over the internet?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ursus on June 06, 2012, 06:24:00 PM
Wait, you asked him out over the internet?

this.

you're fucked essentially

shits gonna be awkward as fuck
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Sabb on June 06, 2012, 06:24:10 PM
Wait, you asked him out over the internet?
climax
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 06:24:44 PM
Wait, you asked him out over the internet?
Yeah, we both know what each other look like and shiz, so it's not like we're both random strangers.


this.

you're fucked essentially

shits gonna be awkward as fuck

But we meet on the internet
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Supertoaster on June 06, 2012, 06:25:23 PM
lol last time someone i knew met a guy on the internet he sent her death threats
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 06:26:14 PM
lol last time someone i knew met a guy on the internet he sent her death threats
Can we please not get off topic
I need srs dating advice, this is my first crush and I don't want to fuck it up ; - ;
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ursus on June 06, 2012, 06:26:26 PM
Yeah, we both know what each other look like and shiz, so it's not like we're both random strangers.

But we meet on the internet

(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m521dz6wgB1qjolka.jpg)

(You should have said that earlier)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 06:30:25 PM
(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m521dz6wgB1qjolka.jpg)

(You should have said that earlier)
I thought it was implied, but okay.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ·UηİŦ·· on June 06, 2012, 06:37:28 PM
take it slow just means start off slow. he doesnt want to jump right into a relationship
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Nike JUST DO IT
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Devie on June 06, 2012, 06:49:00 PM
It means, take it as it goes... lol.. no pun intended.
Seriously though, take your relationship as it goes. Don't overanalyze something (such as he suddenly went offline suddenly and was gone for 12 hours and didn't say goodbye to u), don't label anything (are we like,.. truly madly deep lovers?) etc.. it just means, have fun and take it easy.

Don't jump into things you guys aren't ready.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Seb on June 06, 2012, 07:26:50 PM
Do you know him IRL or online?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 07:30:58 PM
Do you know him IRL or online?
Online, but we video chatted before so he's not like some 58 year old pedo that faps to cats giving birth  Unit
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cake Faice on June 06, 2012, 07:32:56 PM
Online, but we video chatted before so he's not like some 58 year old pedo that faps to cats giving birth  Unit
Do you guys even live close to each-other?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 07:35:26 PM
Do you guys even live close to each-other?
We live like ~40 miles away from each other but we haven't meet face-to-face
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Seb on June 06, 2012, 07:36:55 PM
Online

yeah, no, sorry
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cake Faice on June 06, 2012, 07:37:26 PM
We live like ~40 miles away from each other but we haven't meet face-to-face
Your best bet would probably be is to see if he's up to hang out at like a restaurant or a cafe or a park or something and take a bus to his general area.

If you have the time of course.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: blαh2355 on June 06, 2012, 07:37:47 PM
I'm sorry but I always laugh at online relationships. It just doesn't work out unless you guys actually meet up. IMO
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 07:38:33 PM
Your best bet would probably be is to see if he's up to hang out at like a restaurant or a cafe or a park or something and take a bus to his general area.

If you have the time of course.
Wouldn't just be easier to get to know each other over TTT?
I don't really have a form of transportation.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cake Faice on June 06, 2012, 07:40:38 PM
Wouldn't just be easier to get to know each other over TTT?
I don't really have a form of transportation.
No public transportation that can go that far?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 06, 2012, 07:43:40 PM
No public transportation that can go that far?
Unless I want to take like 6 different buses.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cake Faice on June 06, 2012, 07:45:04 PM
Unless I want to take like 6 different buses.
Well if you really believe it's worth it and you know for sure you don't have any other choice, might as well try your luck.

I'm sorry but I always laugh at online relationships. It just doesn't work out unless you guys actually meet up. IMO
And that's how online relationships sorta succeed, is because they meet up irl...
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Seb on June 06, 2012, 07:45:09 PM
Wouldn't just be easier to get to know each other over TTT?
I don't really have a form of transportation.

just

just trash the whole thing if you can't meet him
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Shockah on June 06, 2012, 08:28:48 PM
just

just trash the whole thing if you can't meet him
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Frank on June 06, 2012, 08:36:38 PM
He wants to (http://cache.ohinternet.com/images/b/b2/Slowpoke.gif)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cheesicle on June 06, 2012, 11:17:42 PM
So, there's this guy I really like but when I asked him out he said he wanted to take it slow
What do

WAIT WAIT

you're a girl?
orr...?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Ἆxule on June 06, 2012, 11:20:58 PM
WAIT WAIT

you're a girl?
orr...?

you're a bit slow
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cheesicle on June 06, 2012, 11:24:22 PM
you're a bit slow

Haven't been quite active lately.. Hopefully you noticed
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Ἆxule on June 06, 2012, 11:52:36 PM
Haven't been quite active lately.. Hopefully you noticed

I mean through this thread. That's where I learned
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: coolzeldad on June 07, 2012, 01:37:02 AM
I have heard of people who met as pen pals and met years later.. then got married and were very happy.

I wish ya the best in joor endeavorz :)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Cheesicle on June 07, 2012, 01:53:26 AM
I mean through this thread. That's where I learned

Wutttttttttt

i just re-read the thread 3 times..

Either I'm a shit reader or a shit interpreter
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Ἆxule on June 07, 2012, 02:19:13 AM
Wutttttttttt

i just re-read the thread 3 times..

Either I'm a shit reader or a shit interpreter

Nah, it was my bad. I wrote it quickly

What I meant was that I hadn't known either until I read through this thread. I figured you could tell from the first post, but I wasn't really sure either
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Sabb on June 07, 2012, 06:56:20 AM
Nah, it was my bad. I wrote it quickly

What I meant was that I hadn't known either until I read through this thread. I figured you could tell from the first post, but I wasn't really sure either
Now I think that you think that he's a girl. Because he's not.

I have heard of people who met as pen pals and met years later.. then got married and were very happy.

I wish ya the best in joor endeavorz :)
This. This stuff isn't really all that uncommon. Shouldn't just throw away any sort of a relationship with the mindset that you're just never going to meet them, imo.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lavenchie on June 07, 2012, 12:06:21 PM
just

just trash the whole thing if you can't meet him
I could probably meet him at some point, it's not like he lives on the opposite side of the world
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Deathie on June 07, 2012, 01:30:28 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Seb on June 07, 2012, 03:17:18 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?

Three, actually.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Ἆxule on June 07, 2012, 04:25:49 PM
Now I think that you think that he's a girl. Because he's not.

I've heard him talk. I know he is a dude

My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?

0
That's why I didn't give advice
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Viole on June 07, 2012, 05:48:43 PM
-5  :trollface:
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Foofoojack on June 07, 2012, 05:50:00 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?
1
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Devie on June 07, 2012, 07:10:31 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?

define "successful relationship".  How does one become successful in a relationship?
Is it defined as having a healthy break up = successful?
or marriage = successful?
being happy 24/7 with your partner = successful?

because in my experience, it's trial and error.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ·UηİŦ·· on June 07, 2012, 07:20:11 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?

define "successful relationship".  How does one become successful in a relationship?
Is it defined as having a healthy break up = successful?
or marriage = successful?
being happy 24/7 with your partner = successful?

because in my experience, it's trial and error.

If it's #1, then it's 6 out of 17.

If it's #2, then it's none.

If it's #3, then it's 9 out of 17. Maybe 10, I don't know how to feel about some of them.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ursus on June 07, 2012, 07:34:58 PM
My question to those of you giving him advice:

How many successful relationships have you had?

>with another man
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Shockah on June 08, 2012, 03:13:02 PM
>with another man

It's still a relationship that holds to the key concepts of any other. Why you feel that needs to be pointed out when it's already been addressed is beyond me.

If it's #2, then it's none.

I can only presume you're talking about young relationships because obviously there's a shit ton of married couples out there. If that's the case though I get your point it's not entirely true. My brother (age 26) and his fiance (age 25) met in 5th grade and started dating in 6th, sure they've had their fair share of ups and downs, time apart, etc. But after 15 years a relationship that started in middle school is becoming a lifetime commitment, so no matter how unlikely it may seem, they're living proof it can happen.